A Chance Meeting or A Divine Appointment?



 
A Chance Meeting or A Divine Appointment?

 There have been times in my life when I have met someone or have been in an experience that was totally unexpected.  Often that experience leaves a lasting impression for me or introduces me to a new friends and new insight in my life.

I have often said, “What were the chances of that happening”? OR “What a small world to meet someone who (fill in the blank)”.

As I ponder these situations, I begin to discover maybe it might not have been a “chance meeting” it might in fact been a “divine appointment.”

I believe God is awesome and He lives with us each day and guides us if we will only have the discernment to listen.  I believe He is weaving a tapestry of goodness and kindness of which we are a thread to add color and meaning.  He knows the plans He has for my life as I pick and choose where I go each day.  As I make my schedule, He has some inked-in divine appointments for me to play a part.

I find it exciting that He places various people He wants me to show compassion, empathy and encouragement in the circumstances I encounter.  It also reminds me I need to be aware of my circumstances and not be so busy to miss the opportunities God has given me.  I recognize that I need discernment to recognize His divine appointments and not miss out on the blessings he has for me.

So how do I arrive at that discernment? Perhaps I need to let go of myself and simply be all He has created me to be.  I think a good place to start would to be recognizing His love for me and how I am to love others. 

As I ponder this concept I am reminded of some ways that I may do those things:

·       When others are not kind, show kindness

·       When others are impatient, show patience

·       When others are discouraging, encourage

·       When others are selfish, share what I have

·       When others ignore someone, notice them, smile  and say hello

·       When others reject, insult, betray us, show acceptance, love and forgiveness

 We may never know when those simple “divine appointments” come to us the difference it will make in our lives as well as the lives of others.

So as we think of today and what comes our way, let’s pray for the discernment to see those “divine appointments” God may place in our journey.

 


There have been times in my life when I have met someone or have been in an experience that was totally unexpected.  Often that experience leaves a lasting impression for me or introduces me to a new friends and new insight in my life.
 
I have often said, “What were the chances of that happening”? OR “What a small world to meet someone who (fill in the blank)”.

As I ponder these situations, I begin to discover maybe it might not have been a “chance meeting” it might in fact been a “divine appointment.”

I believe God is awesome and He lives with us each day and guides us if we will only have the discernment to listen.  I believe He is weaving a tapestry of goodness and kindness of which we are a thread to add color and meaning.  He knows the plans He has for my life as I pick and choose where I go each day.  As I make my schedule, He has some inked-in divine appointments for me to play a part.

I find it exciting that He places various people He wants me to show compassion, empathy and encouragement in the circumstances I encounter.  It also reminds me I need to be aware of my circumstances and not be so busy to miss the opportunities God has given me.  I recognize that I need discernment to recognize His divine appointments and not miss out on the blessings he has for me.

So how do I arrive at that discernment? Perhaps I need to let go of myself and simply be all He has created me to be.  I think a good place to start would to be recognizing His love for me and how I am to love others. 

As I ponder this concept I am reminded of some ways that I may do those things:

·       When others are not kind, show kindness

·       When others are impatient, show patience

·       When others are discouraging, encourage

·       When others are selfish, share what I have

·       When others ignore someone, notice them, smile  and say hello

·       When others reject, insult, betray us, show acceptance, love and forgiveness

 We may never know when those simple “divine appointments” come to us the difference it will make in our lives as well as the lives of others.
 
So as we think of today and what comes our way, let’s pray for the discernment to see those “divine appointments” God may place in our journey.

 

Had You Rather Be Right Or Be Kind?

As adults it seems we are not treating each other well these days. Everyone is angry at something or someone.  We are quick to judge and proclaim “I am right and if you don’t agree then you are wrong”. Often that attitude leads to unkind treatment of people and harsh words.

I feel it is so unfortunate that both inside and outside the church, it seems our dislikes and intolerance for people who don’t think or believe the same things we do is increasing and our ability to get along with one another is decreasing in a very dramatic way.

I am reminded of a statement my dad used when talking about how to treat others.  He would say, “Had you rather be right or be kind”?  My dad demonstrated to me it was more important to be kind and I try to practice that in my relationships with people.

In our society today it seems there has developed a sense of “entitlement”.  It is often quoted as 5^th amendment right.  Really? The 5^th amendment does not give anyone the right to be unkind, exclusive or bash people who do not agree with their beliefs or opinions. 

It is true everyone has their right to stand up for their own beliefs. People should support whatever causes they feel best express those beliefs.  However, when did it become acceptable to be so ugly and mean spirited to others who do not agree with those beliefs?

I wonder if that is why people are so turned off to church and attendance has continued to decrease in recent years.  When we read about Jesus’ ministry in the New Testament we find he was accepting of everyone and often reminded the “church leaders” that their rule keeping and finger pointing was not the way God intended for others to be treated.

If I had to summarize what I think we should all do to follow Jesus’ teaching in our world today it would be to love others and be kind.  Perhaps if we spend more time praying for all those we tend to be unkind to we would see a difference in our country.  But more importantly we would see a difference in our own lives.  

My personal goal is to be a person who recognizes everyone is important, everyone needs love, everyone has value and that we do not all have to share the same beliefs to be able to love one another.

So had your rather be right or be kind?  The decision is up to you.

What does loving others really mean?  Maybe we should examine what real love means.  I believe this is a good place to start:

Love never gives up.
   Love cares more for others than for self.
   Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.
   Love doesn't strut,
   Doesn't have a swelled head,
   Doesn't force itself on others,
   Isn't always "me first,"
   Doesn't fly off the handle,
   Doesn't keep score of the sins of others,
   Doesn't revel when others grovel,
   Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
   Puts up with anything,
   Trusts God always,
   Always looks for the best,
   Never looks back,
   But keeps going to the end.

 (1 Cor. 13)

Perseverance

Perseverance

My dad use to say, “All good things come to those who wait”.  He probably said that to me more than any of my sisters because I tended to want something and want it “now”.  I admit I am not good at the “waiting” game.  However, I do feel as I have aged I have developed a little perseverance but I still have a long way to go in the “waiting” game of life.

I recall the story of Harlan Sanders better recognized as Colonel Sanders.

When he was 63 years old he had every right to feel like he was a victim but he became a victor instead.  He owned a restaurant-motel-service station business which he had built up over the years.  He was offered nearly $200,000 cash for the business, but he turned it down because he was not ready to retire.  Two years later, the state built a new highway which bypassed his business and within a year Harlan had lost everything.

He was 65 years old, broke, and no income other than a small monthly Social Security check to live on.  The only thing he knew how to do well was cook chicken.  He decided that maybe he could sale that knowledge to someone else. So he packed up his old car with a pressure cooker and his special recipe and set out to sell his idea to others.

It was a tough road for him and he often slept in his car because he did not have enough money for a hotel.  Restaurant after restaurant turned him down.  He suffered over 300 rejections before someone believed in his dream. 

A few years later he opened the first of what would become a very successful restaurant chain known as “Kentucky Fried Chicken”. 

Harlan was quoted as saying, “Never quit at the age of 64, my success came when I was 65”.

It often seems me to perseverance is a quality that many of us need to develop in this life journey.  We tend to live in a world that wants everything now rather than later.  We do not like to wait!

Just think of the “fast food” industry.  They first put in a “drive-thru” which was supposed to be faster for you to be on your way.  Then the “first and second” window idea was introduced so that you could pay at one and get your food at the second so you could be on your way even faster.  Now some places have two lanes with speakers so people do not have to wait as long to place the order.

In fact, just about everything has a “drive thru” these days because we are so busy we don’t want to have take the time to actually go in a business. When I lived in Georgia, there was even a drive thru for you to purchase your car tag! No waiting in long lines which I loved. 

I admit I like drive through for pick up.  I use the drive thru bank, drive thru drug store, drive thru restaurants or those who will bring it to you car.

I have no idea what the inside of many of these places look like because I don’t ever go inside!  

So what does that say about our ability to persevere?  As for me I could say I do not like to have to “wait” very long. 

This brings me back to the statement of my dad, “all good things come to those who wait”.  My dad was a great encourager and always made you feel like you could accomplish anything if you tried long enough or in other words you need to persevere.  One of my memories as a child is a piano recital in which I had practiced many hours to be ready to perform.  As I was playing at the recital I forgot part of the piece.  I stopped and began at the beginning and when I got to that same place I could not remember.  I did this two times and then finally just got up and walked away.  I was embarrassed and wanted to run out of the building. 

After the recital my dad said, “I think you played the part you remembered the best I’ve ever heard you play”.  He told me to always remember that to try and fail is better than to not ever try at all.  An important lesson I learned from him is that perseverance is an important quality to develop in life. 

Oliver Goldsmith said, “Success consists of getting up just one more time than you fail.”  It seems “faster” or “now” is not a quality of life that always brings success.

There have been times in the “waiting” period that I have not practiced perseverance.  I have allowed my journey to be clouded with doubt, resentment, feeling of being the “victim” and felt miss-treated.

So as I ponder the word perseverance it makes me realize that I have to learn that never quitting, never giving up and just putting one foot in front of the other leads to many successful roads. 

I invite you to join me in pondering this quote: “Don’t be discouraged. It’s often the last key in the bunch that opens the lock”.

I offer this as an encouragement to all of us to keep working on developing perseverance so our lives will be successful, Remember the next time you eat KFC chicken: Colonel Sanders was 65, broke and had 300 rejections before someone believed in him and his idea. 

Integrity

Integrity

The events in our world in recent days have brought me to a place of thinking, "why do people act like they do, say what they say, and basically have very little concern for anyone but themselves.  Those thoughts led me to begin thinking about Integrity and what it means in our world today.

What words come to your mind when you hear the word: Integrity?

Words that are often used to define Integrity include: Honesty, Faithfulness, Sincerity, Truth, and Honor.

So how does one become a person of Integrity?

For me it begins with coming to an understanding of who you are as a person and what values are important in your life.  How do you decide those values?

One must reconcile their values with what is important to them, what brings value to their life, and how they practice those values in their own life.

People develop those values with many different influences in their lives. Values may be based on their family traditions, spiritual truths, moral issues, political issues, society influences, and discovering who they are and what purpose they have in life.

I believe true Integrity comes from inside a person to their daily actions in their life journey.

C.S. Lewis defined integrity,

“Doing the right thing even when no one is watching”

Another definition I think defines integrity for me is:

       “Deciding to integrate my values into my daily actions”

For me being a person of integrity means:

      “You can count on me, I will keep my word and I will be true.”

Another way of saying that is:

      “I’m not for sale at any price”.

So how do we practice integrity in our lives?  The key points for me are:

• Not to be easily influenced by others.  You will not recant your principles based on what someone else tries to get you to do.
• Not to comprise your convictions even if it means being left out of a group.
• Not willing to compromise your consistent character even if circumstances would make it easy and the potential for gain is great

INTEGRITY DEFICIT DISORDER

I believe that in our society we suffer an integrity deficit disorder.  I believe this comes from creating an environment of influencing people to think outside in instead of inside out.

The world in which we live places so much attention on being popular, glamorous, being cool, plotting to get what you want, and power plays at any cost creates “outside” thinking.

So why do we wonder where the sense of entitlement comes from in our society?  Consistently focusing on what is outside for material possession and success does not lead to becoming a person of integrity.  It leads to being a person who will play any game or do whatever it takes to get what they perceive to be successful.

It leads a person to be unpredictable, making decisions depending on the day of the week, the way they feel, or who ever they talked to last and what others want them to do which they perceive will get them ahead or be popular.

How do we over come this disorder?  Each person has a personal responsibility to become a person of integrity and encourage other people to do the same.

Proverbs 10:9 “People with integrity walk safely but those who follow crooked paths will slip and fall”.  The words of wisdom from Proverbs remind us why it is important to know who you are, determine your principles for your life and then practice them.

My goal for life is live consistently with my principles or in other words,

“I’m the same everywhere either public or private and my word is my bond.”

A person of Integrity would be one who practices what they believe, speak honestly, speak with love and show kindness.

Ponder on these thoughts and find encouragement to continue to be a person of integrity!

Pondering:  What I was taught growing up…..

When you are in conversation with people and you express your beliefs about the issues of today and they ask, “Why you believe that?” what is your reply?

For most people it usually begins with “because that is what I was taught growing up.”

Does that always make it right?  Most people never question what was taught by a well intentioned person who at the time thought what they were saying was the truth.

Often these were taught from generation to generation without anyone ever really testing the theories or even questioning the possibility of something being different.

It reminds me of the story of the new bride who was preparing a roast for dinner.  She took the roast and cut a portion of the end off and discarded it.  Her husband asked why she cut the end off before cooking.  She replied because “because that is what my mother does”.   He thought that was a little weird but being the wise husband he did not question his wife.   A few weeks later they were having dinner with her parents and her mom served roast for dinner.  He decided to ask her mom why she cut off the end of the roast.

She replied, “Because that is what my mom always did”.   A few months later, they were visiting her grandmother and his curiosity had gotten the best of him about the roast.  He decided to ask her grandmother and to his amazement she replied, “Oh, because I only had one size pan and the roast would not fit in it when it that was big”.

For two generations a part of a roast had been discarded without even questioning why grandmother cut the roast.  Just imagine how much good meat could have been consumed if only one word had been asked, “Why”.

How many times have you asked, “Why” when thinking about what your beliefs?   The following are several reasons people tend to never ask “Why”:

• It is easier to just accept beliefs than to research
• It would seem disloyal to question their elders
• It is what my church taught so it must be true
• It is the way it has always been
• It would scary to know that you have believed something that might not be true

There are many reasons to ask yourself “why” when you think of the beliefs and values you hold as an adult.  It may surprise you to know that some of them are incorrect, was never true, or miss-interpreted by some other well meaning person.

Do you find it hard to be inclusive in your acceptance of others and their beliefs?  I suggest that might be a starting point for you to begin to ask “why” do I feel this way and how did I arrive here.  This may take you on a journey you have never traveled, but it is one you owe your self to discover who you are and why you believe what you do. 

And who knows, you might even discover some new things along the way that would even make your life better!